"Two truths"

  The wording of a person who was born Chinese and then adopted into an American family regarding "identity"; she feels like she holds two truths.

  That is the sort of mindset most people have to strive to accomplish.  It is, I think, having a humility about being human.  It certainly comes up for some of us in being social creatures jammed into these formulas concerning "victory".

  In our early adulthood there was also fierce fighting in the world and our hearts and minds were put through the ringer at each turn in the warring.  It's not just an emotional "roller coaster" when we hold the awareness of it being real people, our loved ones, caught in the consequences of war mode.  There is a necessary solemnity.

  What we can do.  We can be supportive of people tasked with work.  Especially regarding front lines in contentious situation it takes a lot of self control to not keep expressing ourselves--outrage to co-miserating, empathy, intelligence--all of that is valid for everyone, but not helpful in undoing a bomb.  Caring behind the front lines is helpful and that's how people forge real working-solution relationship.

  There's no denying that an American democracy is not for every type of country.  We can't force our way of life on others.  That's not to say we're not caring about all of humanity.  But in real war different countries have their own ways of fighting and surviving.  It's awkward to even give out input on a foreign war.  And staying out of it while being somewhat involved is worse than awkward.  We have to stay us.  And that may have to be a modified version of ourselves as the world is sifted as resource-based and political-military alliance.

  We're in a holding pattern at the moment even as other nations and regions are being dragged along by complex warring.  What's horrifying for most people is warring getting worse, or the worsening making everything unpredictable, so holding pattern is the best we could do at such a time.  And we do have to be "together" in moving out of holding pattern as one nation.